Love Marriage nor Arranged Marriage but simple marriage
“Love Marriage” nor “Arranged Marriage” But simple “Marriage”
There should not be any such distinction like “Love Marriage “or “Arranged Marriage “. If we think deeply enough, we will find that these two so-called different ways of marriage are the creation of reserved society and its orthodox & foolish people.
Marriage actually means “A life-Long arrangement to live together with love”. As the definition implies, marriage itself is “Arranged Love” of loving arrangement. Then why should there be any such distinction like “Love” or “Arranged “marriage.
On the other hand if we accept such distinction, even then there should arise a question like.
“ Is arranged marriage possible without Love” ?
OR the question like
“Is love marriage possible without so-called arrangement” ?
Broadly speaking there is only one factor ,which plays a vital role in marriage ,that is “LOVE”, without this ingredient is always bitter. This is the only ingredient ,which adds flavours and sweetness to marriage and these flavours and sweetness are nothing but “Mutual understanding” ,”Forgiveness”, “sympathy” and so on.
However , the society has classified marriage in to two types. It is nothing but the egoistic nature and possessive attitude of society towards marriage Which gives such classifications.
What makes society ?
The answer is “its people and its individual human beings”
And, what makes such beings worth beings ? of course “Their minds”
So any opposition raised by society is nothing but the opposition by the minds of the individuals constituting society.
FOR EXAMPLE:-
Suppose a boy wants to marry a girl , and there comes an opposition from his family members, relatives and so on. On one side, the boy is firm to marry a girl of his choice. On the other side, there is a huge mass of people coaxing him not to take such step, and at this stage if the boy marries that girl, that marriage will be called “Love Marriage”, just because all others are in opposition here, the word opposition means that the “attitude” of such people towards such marriage is “negative” But if the boy succumbs to the wish of the huge mass and does not marry that girl the mass will cheer up an will hug him. The mass will have the spirit of victory. Their ego is fully satisfied. Now they will search for new bride of their choice and get that boy marry her. This time the condition is favorable to them and their “attitude” towards such marriage will be “positive” or “Affirmative” In both the above cases marries remains marriage but the attitude of mind remains different.
So it is the “positive” or “Negative” attitude of the human mind which makes marriage either “Love marriage or Arranged marriage” So such distinction as “Love marriage” and Arranged marriage “exists only in human minds. In reality, Marriage remains marriage only.
So, Conclusively I will give my view that: Neither “Love marriage “nor “Arranged marriage” But simple Marriage”.


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Yahan Marne ki halat ho Gayi hai tumko abhi BHI marriage ki PADI hai
ReplyDeleteI prefer arrange marriage. In tht we spend time to understand each other and know each other with all good positive n actual feelings bcoz we stay under one roof after marriage. We love each others sacrifices love care maturity we create our bonding. Which nowadays people refuses to marry someone bcoz they don't hve compatibility n bonding BTW them. So I think arrange marriage is more successful then love marriages. Then rest depends on person to person
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